Anger and Wisdom
Channel five “Beat It: Angry with my Father ” Watch:Youtube
Mental Health Organisation: Boiling Point Report 2008
For Mental Health Action Week 2008, the Mental Health Organisation launched a report ‘Boiling Point’ about problem anger, how it affects individuals, families and communities, and what we can do to minimise the harm it causes.
Boiling Point.pdf Download the full report here
Anger & How to Deal with it.
A Mental Health Foundation publication
Bully OnLine is the world’s largest resource on workplace bullying and related issues. www.bullyonline.org
Family Mediators Association: Family mediation is a voluntary process by which couples in dispute, particularly those going through separation or divorce, are helped to deal with arrangements for their future. www.thefma.co.uk
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The part anger plays in our lives.
Anger is a valid, healthy emotion. However, many of us learned from a very young age, that anger can be dangerous and destructive. In the words of anger management guru John Lee, “Anger equals pain”. As children, it is vital that our angry feelings are accepted by our caretakers. If these feelings are not heard and respected, we carry our resentments into adulthood and project them onto others, especially loved ones, work colleagues and those in authority. As grown ups, most of us fall into two distinct categories of behaviour, affecting both our mental and physical states. This in turn can lead to depression, anxiety, stress, ill health, relationship break-down and loss of job etc.
Are you an exploder or imploder?
There are usually two ways that most of us deal with our anger, either to implode or explode. Exploders move from anger into rage quickly. These are adult temper tantrums. Exploders are irrational in their regressed state and cause harm to themselves and to those around them. Their anger is the rage of the moment. Exploders are unable to look at the big picture and are swamped by the reptilian and mammalian part of the brain. Rage is anger out of control.Imploders stuff their anger. They “bottle” it for long periods of time because of fear, insecurity and low self-esteem. Initially, it appears to cause little harm to them. Imploders however cannot hold the anger in forever, they must let it out. They are walking time bombs, just waiting to explode. The longer it is held in the more damage it does to the person retaining it. It takes its toll physically! An imploder will eventually become an exploder. It is only a matter of time. As irrational as the exploder may seem, the imploder appears more so. Imploders stack dominoes called emotion and pain. When dominoes are knocked over, they fall on the next in line and cause a chain reaction. All it takes to knock over the first domino is an insignificant event at the wrong time. Imploders usually explode!
These are important treatment areas:
• Anger Management
• Defense Mechanisms
• What anger isn’t
• Road Rage
• The Wheel of Emotions
• Temper Control
• Anger Scale (degrees of anger)
• Do’s and Don’ts
• Giving and Receiving Feedback
• Understanding Anger
• Recognition and Expression